Limitations on our time, physical abilities, or our ability to communicate with others (the way we are accustomed to) can feel frustrating. If we've previously been used to living without the limitations and find ourselves having to adapt, it is so easy ~ and normal ~ to feel afraid, angry or unsure. On the other hand, the Lord can fill us with a feeling of peace to accept what we cannot change. The only things we can change are our thoughts, how we respond to the situation, and how often we pray for comfort and help (more is better). It takes courage to pray. It takes courage to have a humble heart and realize you can't do it alone without the Savior's help. You can pray and ask for help. Take courage.
A "new normal". I prefer to call limitations a "new normal". That term came to me during a difficult time when I was learning to adapt to a long-term health challenge, and I still have to remind myself about that perspective when I have relapses. Those years were a challenge not only for me, but for my husband and children. We were praying a lot, and I know that "new normal" outlook was an answer to prayers. Realizing that I had a new normal helped me so much. Rather than feeling limited, or like nobody needed me anymore, or that I didn't make a difference, I felt capable and saw opportunities for personal growth. I felt that I had something to offer within my "new normal". I can't tell you how critical it was to feel that way.
How can we create opportunities with our "new normal"?
I recall they went on a much needed overnight camping trip that I was too sick to attend, so I sent a big 8 x 10 photograph of me with them (actually, it was just an enlarged blurry picture of me printed from the computer). When they took pictures with the camera around the campfire, etc., they included my "face" in the group picture. I felt like I was still a part of our family time. After a couple of years, I was a little stronger, so my husband came up with a trip I could handle. He found a hotel we could stay in near places he and the children could go explore. When we went to a museum we rented a wheelchair so that I could see some of the exhibits. Those are such happy memories. My health is much better now, and I'm surprised by how MUCH I miss those years. Yes, I had what others would call limitations, but I look back on that time and I was like a bird learning to fly in a new sky, and I flew. The Lord is always ready to bless us with a new outlook, and with peace, if we are willing. Our "new normal" may last a week or years, but the Savior, who will bless us with a new outlook, can literally make it a time of opportunity and peace, if we are willing.
How can we find peace in our "new normal"? It is possible to let go and allow ourselves to feel the peace that only the Savior can provide. Daily prayer is a special time to get on our knees in a quiet place and pour out our feelings to a listening Heavenly Father. God, our Heavenly Father, is a perfect Father who loves every person on earth ~ his children ~ with a pure and perfect love. He is listening to you. He will answer you. Maybe not in the very moment you ask, but He will answer you when He deems it the right time. Of course it's important to eat healthy food, breathe deeply, and get daily exercise, even if we are bedridden, but it is continual prayer that creates a still, calm place deep in our souls where the peace that only the Savior gives can set up residence. In nature, the waves can be crashing around on the surface, the wind can be howling, but deep below the surface of the ocean it is always, always calm. You can feel that way.
I'm not saying that discouragement will never come again. However, when we create that firm foundation of prayer and faith we become familiar with the feeling of calm peace that comes from those habits, and we can return to those feelings more quickly. When that happens, discouragement becomes like an unwanted visitor dropping by for lunch, instead of an unwanted guest at the door with five suitcases. With prayer, you often have more control over the duration of the visit because you know what it feels like to return to that familiar place of peace and calm.